my2cents

18. March, 2007

The values of an “intact” family

Filed under: Life — frightanic @ 15:21

Traditional (aka conservative) values haven been given up by a large portion of the society over the last decade. I live Switzerland but this unfortunate phenomenon can be observed pretty much around the whole world. I’m sure the reason(s) for this development are complex and hard to pin-point.
I consider “the family” as one of the strong pillars any society rests upon. Of course, the notion of “family” has changed over time. The size of the group of people referred to as family has declined. The mom-dad-2-kids combination may be seen as ideal by many in western cultures, but not too long ago a family was run by the grandfather or great-grandfather.
Nowadays, what we see is the absence of family at all. Mom-dad-kid combinations are torn apart and rearranged as couples divorce and move in with new partners. Single moms and (less frequently) single dads struggle to squeeze the exchange of kids into their busy schedules. I have never personally experience any of this myself, but I pitty all those kids who grow up being shared by their divorced parents. They grow up without the sence of belonging. In the worst case they make up for that by joining replacement families such as fanatic religous groups of all flavor or street gangs.

I recently stepped out of a train on a Saturday afternoon and witnessed how a mom kissed her sad looking 10-year old girl who was about the enter the train goodbye. Nothing unusual as such. Then I overheard the lady say: “Say hello to daddy, would you”. I immediately (and maybe incorrectly) assembled the puzzle in my mind in a split second. Parents divorced, girl with mom during the week, daddy given visitation/visiting right for Saturday/Sunday, and child being shoved back and forth. How sad.
Imagine how that situation forms the girl’s value system. What sense of family will she be able to pass on to her children? She is the new generation…

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